Demystifying Horoscope Match Making ( Kundli/Gun Milan )
Finding the best life partner among the crowd via Horoscope Match Making ??
Come, let us understand what is "Kundli/Gun Milan" and what is or rather should be the use of matching horoscopes.
In the phase when some one is looking for a spouse, he/she or their parents visit astrologers with horoscope of each and every proposal that comes in their way and ask for a "kundli milan".
People ask questions like, how is the prospect, post marriage life, child birth, career with the would be spouse.
Now, what if the horoscope say - child birth is denied?? what if the horoscope shows vaidhavya yog (widowhood).
Shall we reject such horoscopes for marriage? or shall we ignore the results and accept it?
Say we reject it, what have we prevented?
Prevented a disastrous marriage? Prevented a post marriage trauma? Prevented ourself from being childless?
No, we have not prevented anything. We can not prevent anything for that matter :)
The saying goes like - अवश्यमेव भोक्तव्यं कृत कर्मम शुभाशुभं , meaning every good and bad karma of a soul has to be borne by him
If gun milan/kundli milan could prevent childlessness, widowhood, hardships etc; then Raam & Seeta would not have suffered vanvas, separation & lack of Children related happiness.
Shree Raam had the best astrologers and rishis to guide about the match making, about vivah muhurat etc.
Not the kind of astrologers we find today , who don't even sometimes understand the difference between a house and a sign and start guiding people :)
The cruxt is that - प्रारब्ध पेहले बना पीछे बना शरीर :)
Every part and parcel of our life is governed by past karmas or by rinubandh ( karmic debts); what to say about major things like your parents, your siblings, spouse , children, profession, education, wealth & health.
If you are destined to be childless, you think you can choose a horoscope which shows child birth and enjoy the happiness of children through your life partners luck ? :)
Its your own destiny & you will go through it , whatever your spouse's horoscope indicates.
Shree Raam dint get happiness from his children untill they were adults!!
Mata Sita had to leave her material body and separate from her husband/children after some years!!
Raam & Seeta had to face separation multiple times.
So we now understand that horoscope match making will not prevent anything or help you choose a gem of a person with perfect prospects of child birth, career, health & wealth
Then what is gun milan for? :)
In fact what is horoscope analysis for? When destiny can not be changed.
Gun milan is just to estimate all material issues of a couple & their compatibility.
My personal experience says, once you have practically accepted/decided for a marriage proposal, then you should be doing the Kundli milan. And well before marriage once must perform parihar karmas(remedies) to mitigate/balance the doshas of the individual horoscopes and the doshas coming out of the gun milan system
For the more technically , rather astrological smart junta - let me explain the above in astrological terms.
Gun milan is just a matrix of 108 nakstra charans into 108 nakshatra charans , which gives you a score out of 36 [Divided into 8 pointers, each pointer weighing from 1 to 8] for each of these combination. Hence it is called "AshtKoot Milan"
Millions of people born in a particular nakstra charan will have the same score with another nakstra charan born people (again in milions)
Apart from gun milan, manglik dosh, seventh house strength and moon sign relationships plus other factors like Guru for the girls and Shukra for boy is take into account to judge the married life.
But everything taken into account - You will still end up marrying that ONE person, to whom which you are destined to get married.
Either the horoscopes match results will be ignored, the horoscope will not be available, fake horoscopes will be presented by one or both sides, or anything else, no astrologer/no horoscope math making process can help you in "not" marrying that destined person or help you in marrying the best of the best person :)
Nutshell - Take horoscope match making as an aid, as one take horoscope analysis as an aid to understand ones life and work on it in a better way
Special note on Remedies -
Remedies shall help you.. support you; but they can not alter/change/divert your destiny.
Analogy in medical terms - A diabetes patient will suffer from the disease life long. A pill twice a day before meals will keep his sugar levels low, and help prevent diabetes associated bad effects on his health, but will not finish off the "disease". he shall depend on that pill for lifetime.
Along with this if he takes ayurvedic supplements, and follows good food habits, his diabetes might not trouble him much.
Similarly, if you are born with some dosh in the horscope ( say shani dosh, mangal dosh, kemdrum dosh.. and so on .... ) you will die with that dosh too.
What can be done is : Understand the problem & its root cause(karma) and act accordingly to improve in further though kriyaman karmas (current) & grace of Almighty !!